3 Lessons Marriage Has Taught Me

Every girl dreams of her wedding day. We dream of flowers, dresses, cakes and sometimes even our dream guy. The plans are laid out down to the detail, but what happens once the vows are pronounced and the reception is over? I'd like to think that's when the real party begins. The party that lasts a lifetime. Three years ago my husband and I vowed our "I Will's" to eachother. Going in neither I nor my husband knew what it really meant to be a husband or wife. It's easy to want the #relationshipgoals we see on television and social media, but in reality life is not always a party and neither is marriage. Marriage is filled with good days, bad days, moods, emotions, demands, etc. I mean you did vow to become one with another human being and if that isn't task I don't know what is. Although it's a task, marriage is also so rewarding. One of my wedding songs was Mariah Carey's Joyride, and what a perfect fit for the marriage I share with my husband to this day, it is truly a JOY RIDE! A ride filled with all the twists, turns, and surprises you experience your first time on a roller coaster, but joyous nonetheless. Marriage has taught me so much and today I'm sharing 3 lessons my marriage has taught me.

Communicate! Communicate! Communicate!

Communication is key in marriage. Neither of us are mind readers, so it is so important for us to communicate our feelings to one another. For a long time I would be upset at things my husband did but never brought those things to his attention. I had to learn that if I don't tell him how I feel, exactly how would he know? And vice versa. Communication is so important and can be the effect of a long lasting marriage.

Help Meet

Life can be hard and struggle is inevitable. One thing marriage has taught is I'm never alone as I go through struggles. I have my husband as a help meet in everything. When I am overwhelmed, he is there to lightening the load and I am there for him. Both of us are really strong people who rather just deal with or do things alone. Not wanting to bother or feel like a burden. But, 3 years of marriage has taught us both that we have eachother to help us through this thing called life.

Everything in love.

Being passionate sometimes comes off as harsh or abrupt and once it comes out of your mouth there is no taking it back. We both had to learn the hard way, may I add that everything must be done in love. The way we talk to eachother included. Of course we are not perfect so we don't always get it right, but when it comes from a place of love then the forgiving is made a little easier. Everything we do must be in love and from a loving place.

Marriage has been good to me. I love my husband with all of my heart. We are not unflawed humans. We mess up, we have arguments, we have bad days, so I won't paint a picture of perfection. But, everyday we are learning to be better for ourselves and one another. We are ever growing and ever learning. I am so glad we chose one another and we are our own #relationshipgoals.


Happy Anniversary to the man that still gives me butterflies!! Wish us a Happy Anniversary in the comments. Have you learned any valuable lessons in marriage?